Yes, I am single

Please note this is more tailored towards females, though males are welcome to read…

Yes, I have been single for a while.

No, I’m not upset I’ll be flower-less on Valentines Day.

Yes, it hurts sometimes to see other people pair up.

No, I don’t need to you remind me/try and introduce me to someone.

More times than I would like to admit, I have found myself questioning my relationships status. And more times than I like to remember, I’ve had another girl confide to me their desire to not be single. It’s weird that we get to this point and suddenly all we can think about is our lack of something. Aren’t we supposed to be all-fulfilled in Christ?

There is so much advice out there – hundreds of articles offering super valid insight into who you should look for, why you should wait, what to do instead of waiting, the absolute gift you have of being single (so much time ALL TO YOURSELF), and for the most part they’re great – fantastic.

So I just want to tell all you girls ONE thing, regardless if you’ve read the plethora of articles out there…

Stop waiting.

Just stop. Stop waiting for a guy to notice you, to ask you out, or to decide you are the coolest thing since sliced bread. You do not need a guy to validate who you are, and when you wait for one to do so you are decreasing the value that you have – do you know how much that value is?

For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
– Psalm 139:13

Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.
– Luke 12:7

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
– Genesis 1:27

But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.
– 1 Peter 2:9

You are not defined by man. You are defined by an all powerful God who loves you. We all forget at times, and so we can all remind each other. This is me reminding you.

So go out and live like you’re loved.

– Christy